Hope you’re OK.
Hope all is well.
I hope your day goes smoothly.

No I don’t.
I want to KNOW.

I want to KNOW that you’re OK.
I want to KNOW that all is well.
I want to KNOW that your day will go smoothly.

But I can’t say that.
Declaring that would seem arrogant.

Who am I to KNOW?
Does my knowing make you uneasy?

I’m sorry. I just want to be clear.
I KNOW. May you hear me clearly.

Letting go of you.
Letting go of us.
Letting go of this.
I am letting go.

I now know better.
I cannot seize the day.

Dripping through my fingers
formless white of an egg
surrounding radiant orange hope.

Formless
slipping away
containing the code
making This.

Yolk
sunny
shiny
self-assured
is but a fuel tank.

And my soul
clearly savors it.

That sunset orb
staying together
not running
not slipping away
without waiting
like the white.

I focus on it.

And yet it’s the white
the seed of life
the part
that keeps slipping away.

Oozing, escaping
that’s how it is with
the slick goo.

That is you.

Slipping through
resistant fingers.

Goo that won’t be contained.
Goo that gets away.

Now that I know,
why bother resisting
this inherence of you?

you’ve passed away and yet
you’ve left so much behind
for all of us to share:

your worldly wisdom
stable family relations
enduring and loving friends

we remember you as you were
and will always be

a mother
a baker

a wife
a business woman

a grandmother
an abundant gardener

a great-grandmother
a trusted friend

a great cook
a very funny lady

oh gentle singer of lullabies
sing to us when we need consoling
as you did and always will
our love for you remains
everlasting

below decks
the crew sleeps soundly
too much booze
poisons expel
the smell of
dried red wine on plastic goblets
litter the galley sink
half empty cans of soda
dirty plates, bottle caps
cigarette butts in
cans of liquid ash

and I see none of this now

I am intent to relate to
the moment above the mess

the moment before sunrise

the moment preceding a new day

in this space
I sit
I practice
conscious remembering
floating on an ocean
immaculate and immense
calmly tossing side to side
and gently up and down

invisible currents
inexplicably determining
imaginary things

intentions made
to see that boat again
on which side? port please.
by when? tonight please.
and so it was!

afraid of my abilities
but not too much.

not enough to stop the work I’ve started
not enough to allow the line to go slack
but enough to maintain the tension
just enough

to know beyond believing
to be without desiring
just this –
nothing more

I didn’t die

but something shifted
a gap appeared
and I waited
wondering what to do

what to do?
the thought of losing you
kept me up last night
thrashing dreams
of all-of-this ending

and yet
nothing ends

Maybe it was an invite
Did he want to play tug of war?

Brown eyes beaming
There’s no way he’s letting go

I pulled: he dug in and sunk low
Harnessing his dog powers against me

Growling, intent on keeping his toy
Not willing to give it up

Letting go: he’s back to prancing
Circling, head held high, tail flagging

Look at me and my toy!
Look at me and my toy!

I wouldn’t know him
or the men in this room
if it wasn’t for you.

[And yet, you're not here.]

Holding his head
between my hands
speaking softly if at all.

Eyes fixed upon eyes.

“I’m starting the injection” she said
calmly, squeezing the
syringe into his
femoral vein.

He felt no pain.

Eyes fixed upon eyes,
my soul attached to him.
Connected, then wafting away.

Both of us entranced,
unable to blink,
unable to miss the moment.
As a sweet dog’s life
[and you]
ebb away.

Missing the sensation of
washing your hands under
running water.

I took my time washing.
I savored every sudsy second,
imagining it for you.

submerging
sponging
rinse
repeat

I have the certain sense,
you’ll be all-right.

When you’re back at the sink
with running water
running water
running water

Going with the flow.
This riptide of knowing,
so deep,
invisible from shore.
Alternating between fighting or
letting it have its way with me.

“Help! – HELP!!”
No one hears me anymore.
I’ve rafted too far out.
Maybe if I shout…
or just let it carry me.

I don’t control the current.
I merely place myself in it.
And I’m not sure where
it will carry me.

Now I’m further than ever
from those firm, familiar sands.
Riding this riptide,
so I can see.

Hunched over in a wheelchair.
With your new boyfriend,
standing at the sterile gates of hell.

He’s the one you ran to,
burning the bridges that carried you.

And for what — Love?
I’ve done crazy things for love.
I’ve packed up and left,
only to leave again.

Nothing lasts.
Not even this connection:
so natural,
so destined,
so preordained.

It was a real tragedy.
You saw things differently.

A few weeks ago
I saw you for the first time
in a long while,
and you didn’t look good.

I wanted to help.
What else could I do?

I wanted to take you away,
I wanted to heal you forever,
to erase your pain once and for all.

Just by sitting next to you.